Bickering, drawing lines in the sand, creating controversy where none really exists, refusing to compromise, perceiving slight, grandstanding: Sound like the national political scene, or does it sound like one of your staff meetings!
I have never really understood people who have to win an argument at all costs. It has never made sense to me why some people make things personal so easily or have to take exception to everything certain people say. I also don’t get why people get so stubborn about a topic they become irrational and immovable.
Sure, I believe strongly in things. Sure, I can get pretty assertive about my agenda when I am passionate about the topic. But I have never felt that I had all the answers. I don’t take other people's input personally and I don't tend to set my feet so firmly in the ground that I cannot be moved. Don't call me Speaker of the House.
Why do people get so obdurate that they are willing to sacrifice success to win a point?
The example set in Washington lately brings the point to a national spotlight. The leaders of both parties have become so entrenched, are trying so hard to make sure the other side looses they are guaranteeing that nobody wins.
Do you have people like that in your company? Are there people like that in your HR department? My bet is the answer is yes.
In my experience this atmosphere of irrational competition is at the heart of most dysfunctional companies.
I wonder, do we teach this to our children at an early age? Do we model this behavior in ourselves or in our society?
How many people will suffer in our nation because of the stubbornness of a few? How many will suffer in our companies for the same reason?